I haven’t thought deeply about girlfriends in the past. Might as well start now.
To a Christian, they are kind of useless. I say “kind of”, because to a specific sub-group of Christians, girlfriends have one use, which is making out, or maybe more than that if you play the “freedom in Christ” card, which, when you think about it, actually makes more sense for justifying blowjobs in marriage than subverting God’s commandments about adultery. Hehe.
But to every other kind of Christian, girlfriends are useless. What can you do with a girlfriend that you can’t do with anyone else? Not much.
Sex is not an option. Making out is not an option. I’m even skeptical of milder forms of physical affection. Once you start, it’s hard to stop. Actually, a funnier way of putting this might be: once you start, it’s hard.
The idea of a Christian girlfriend, at least from what I’ve seen (I invite Christian girlfriend experts to correct me down in the comments), consists of:
- A commitment to a specific girl for an indefinite amount of time
- The expectation that you will take her out on dates
- The expectation that you will not spend this kind of time with any other girl
Of course, the main objection people will raise to my assessment is that obtaining a girlfriend is the first step on the pathway to marriage.
This is true, with one caveat:
Obtaining a girlfriend is the first step on a pathway to marriage
It ain’t the only way, and I’m not sure if it’s the best way.
This of course leads to the question:
What is the best way?
I don’t know.
Like I said, I haven’t thought deeply about this.