Girlfriends are pointless

I haven’t thought deeply about girlfriends in the past. Might as well start now.

To a Christian, they are kind of useless. I say “kind of”, because to a specific sub-group of Christians, girlfriends have one use, which is making out, or maybe more than that if you play the “freedom in Christ” card, which, when you think about it, actually makes more sense for justifying blowjobs in marriage than subverting God’s commandments about adultery. Hehe.

But to every other kind of Christian, girlfriends are useless. What can you do with a girlfriend that you can’t do with anyone else? Not much.

Sex is not an option. Making out is not an option. I’m even skeptical of milder forms of physical affection. Once you start, it’s hard to stop. Actually, a funnier way of putting this might be: once you start, it’s hard.

The idea of a Christian girlfriend, at least from what I’ve seen (I invite Christian girlfriend experts to correct me down in the comments), consists of:

  1. A commitment to a specific girl for an indefinite amount of time
  2. The expectation that you will take her out on dates
  3. The expectation that you will not spend this kind of time with any other girl

Of course, the main objection people will raise to my assessment is that obtaining a girlfriend is the first step on the pathway to marriage.

This is true, with one caveat:
Obtaining a girlfriend is the first step on a pathway to marriage

It ain’t the only way, and I’m not sure if it’s the best way.

This of course leads to the question:
What is the best way?

I don’t know.

Like I said, I haven’t thought deeply about this.

Published by Wight of Leeds

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4 thoughts on “Girlfriends are pointless

  1. Reblogged this on and commented:
    What is the point of a grown man having a “girlfriend”? Is a “girlfriend” a potential future wife, or is it a hindrance before commitment is justified? Our man asks the question. Go answer.


  2. I’ve added your blog to my links page, and I’m glad to follow. It’s amazing to see the depths of my failure to drive traffic over here. Reblogging you just started people talking at my place.

    A couple of random thoughts:

    1. The women I’ve known (many of whom are Christians) have all respected my absolute refusal to play this game, where the male party is expected to be a celibate groveler for his chosen lady’s attention. My attitude is that I’ll be exclusive with a woman when I begin screwing her, and only then if we make some binding agreements. That exclusivity ceases immediately once the sex does.

    2. While I’m not an expert on the New Testament, I have read it. I’ve been impressed by the lack of examples of the “girlfriend” model, as it is described here. Sure, there were engagement periods, when both parties had already made promises, which lasted only as long as the dowry and wedding could be planned. This idea that a man will go years paying for some woman’s trifles, opening her doors, and refusing to socialize with anyone else, in the hopes that something someday happens, seems both unbiblical and ridiculous.

    Your ultimate question about the best way to find a wife? I have no idea. I try to encourage all the young men I talk to to be very, very careful before signing on that contract. More than a few men have gone down to destruction after.


  3. The irony is that many people I have known that were actually active in their faith said that arranged marriages made more sense to them. Im starting to believe that somewhat. But I know that the whole free range dating experiment has been a wash for many people that thought they could handle it.

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    1. I’ve also thought about arranged marriages. The thing about them, though, is that everybody is in favor of arranged marriages until it’s their turn to get married. I don’t know, maybe they would be beneficial, maybe they wouldn’t.

      All I know is that we probably won’t be instituting them in our society anytime soon, if ever.

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